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November 25, 2016
Category: Holiday
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With the upcoming holiday season (Hanukkah, Christmas, Kwanzaa, and New Year’s Day), it can bring a lot of additional grief and stress to those that have lost loved ones, especially this past year. Not only are you realing with the personal loss, but then you may be thinking about all of the stuff that you "have" to do; the responsibilities that you have shouldered for years but just can't bear to think about doing this year. There is no rule that says you must follow the traditions of the past. You don't have to put up decorations, buy everyone gifts, send out cards, or attend all of the holiday events if you don’t want to. Ultimately, people are what matter. Relationships matter. Not bringing your legendary green bean casserole is forgivable, as your family and friends care about you, not what you bring our what you give. You matter. Take it one day at a time, and don't force yourself to do anything you don't want to. You don't "have to" do anything. 

I read a poem that you might find healing in, it’s by author Tanya Lord:

This holiday season
There is one thing I ask
Could you maybe help me
Do this one little task?

Please share the memories
Even those that bring tears
Thinking you have forgotten
Is one of my biggest fears

It might seem awkward
And easier to ignore
Pretend nothing is different
That things are like before

This year let’s celebrate
The love that still lives on
Let’s talk and remember
Those who left, but are not gone


One of the things I've learned in life is that people are what matter. It's all about relationships.


-Greg Poulos, Chaplain (InTeliCare Hospice- Novi)